This one got a bit deep, but that's okay. I'm figuring stuff out. It's a journey.
I once heard podcaster John Roderick talking about the idea of earning one's place in what I've always called the good place—way before the TV show, by the way—and it really resonated with me. In fact, I'd thought exactly the same thing and just never articulated it. I also believe that the means by which one gets to the good place has a bearing on how long one gets to stay, or the quality of one's stay. Probably both.
This visual is fascinating, Cams. To take it further, I imagine how we're all constructed like this. Humans are also messy and one messy ball of lines colliding with another is truly difficult labor. We crave connection, but we're not always ready to conjoin our maps. The "good place" you speak of is, you're right, a place earned by the labor it takes to let our guard down, open up our borders, dissolve our boundaries, but also provide a safe harbor that acknowledges the mutual vulnerability. Human connection isn't a right so much as a gift. As much as we like to hope it's unconditional, offered freely, it isn't. But at least the strings attached are simply good intentions, good will. If we start there, it's not so bad!